The Connection Between Human Design System and Overcoming Narcissistic Abuse

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Do you feel trapped in a cycle of abuse, constantly

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wondering if it's your fault?

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Have you experienced the devastating

effects of narcissistic abuse?

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Today, I want to shed light

on a powerful tool for healing

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and it's called human design.

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The human design system is a

powerful system that helps you

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unravel the web of lies that the

narcissist has placed in your mind.

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Welcome back to the empath and

narcissist podcast, spiritual healing

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with human design, spirituality

from trauma and narcissistic abuse.

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Here we are empowering empaths into

their power and authentic self with

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human design after narcissistic abuse.

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It is here as a tool to help you bust

out of the prison of narcissistic abuse.

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of being a victim from narcissistic abuse

and it allows you to be the architect

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for your own joy and peace in your life.

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Subscribe now.

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Narcissistic abuse can leave lasting

scars on our self esteem, our mental

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health, and overall well being.

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You spent many months, you've spent, or

maybe years, staying with a narcissist

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in hopes that The relationship will

fix itself, or you will fix the

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relationship, or you'll get back

what once was at the beginning.

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But you also are thinking, and not

realizing, you're thinking that you're

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in a normal relationship versus an

emotionally abusive relationship.

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You didn't choose to stay in abuse,

you choose to stay to fix the

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problems because you have hope,

you have faith, and a huge heart.

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But now you're awake and you've left

or you know you need to leave and you

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find yourself lost, lost in the lies

with your self esteem stripped gone.

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You are naked just like goddess Inanna in

the underworld and you feel like a shell

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of yourself, your life that you once knew

and the self you once knew it's gone.

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And you will never be the same.

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Your relationships

before won't be the same.

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And at first you may

think that this is a loss.

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But you know what?

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You are now ready to heal in a cocoon.

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And then you will emerge transformed

like the beautiful butterfly.

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And there is hope.

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By understanding your human

design, you can unlock the path

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to inner healing and recovery.

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It will empower you to discover

yourself and it will embolden you into

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your superpowers that the narcissist

once called your greatest weakness.

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The human design system is a fusion

of astrology, the I Ching, the

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Kabbalah and the chakra system.

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It provides you a blueprint of your

unique, energy configuration, who

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you are in this incarnated body.

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And this is your spirit

in this incarnated body.

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And it's revealing you your

strengths, your vulnerabilities to the

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narcissist and your life's purpose.

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It shows you where to strengthen

and self develop very specifically.

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So how does human design help us

recover from narcissistic abuse?

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It helps you by understanding your design.

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You gain deep insights

about your authentic self.

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And once you know the truth about

your authentic self, the narcissist

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lies cannot penetrate, cannot

place any more doubt in your head.

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You discover in human design,

your inherent worth and learn

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to trust your own intuition.

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In my personal experience, I know

that human design empowers you to

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recognize and break free from toxic

relationship patterns because it helps

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you, again, as a guide to emotionally

grow and it helps you identify

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the vulnerabilities that you have.

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To the narcissist, to toxic people,

and even sometimes just toxic patterns

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with a healthy person and knowing these

things and working on yourself through

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this information can grow a beautifully

successful relationship with a healthy

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person, or it can determine that you

need to cut your losses and move on from

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the toxic and unhealthy relationships.

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So I think , as survivors, it is

essential to reconnect with our

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true essence and human design

system helps you do just that.

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It reminds us that we are not broken,

but rather beautifully unique.

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It guides you towards self acceptance and

self love, which are crucial for healing.

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I'm going to show you how to get a

personalized chart and summary from

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narcissistic abuse because the narcissist

breaks you down into a shell of a person.

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This human design system builds you

back up and if you don't know your human

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design type, you can get yours for free,

a personalized chart and summary from me.

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If you just click the link in the

show notes and fill out your birth

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information, you'll be added to

my empowering newsletter as well

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as get your free chart summary.

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So let me share with you an

example of how these concepts

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can empower you in a reading.

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So we're looking at a chart.

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You'll see that it'll say type.

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. There are five different types.

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I share all of the types in a

video I was a guest on, on Connected

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Community that you can head on over.

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Click the link in the

description to watch that.

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And then you'll see profile.

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That's pretty much your personality

type, similar to Enneagram, but

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it's related to the I Ching.

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Your definition is how many

voices do you have in your head

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to help you make a decision?

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How long does it take to

make a decision for you?

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Your inner authority, like I

said, is your particular way

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of listening to your intuition.

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Your strategy is what

your type's way is to.

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Act in the world.

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So to respond, I know is the most

vague and hardest one with, you know,

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70 percent of us having this strategy

manifesting generators and generators.

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So I'll just briefly say

follow the breadcrumbs.

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Do what you love.

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Do what fills you up.

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Follow each response to someone

reaching out, to an idea, to just a

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workflow, and respond to all those

little breadcrumbs that even your spirit

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guides and serendipity brings to you.

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That's your right path.

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Your not self theme is a great way to

know if you are Living and acting in

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your strategy or not, then that self

theme is that shadow part of your ego.

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It's super frustrated.

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Great.

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You're frustrated.

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I love that.

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That's a sign that says you're not

acting in your strategy because you'll

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flow easy like a river when you're

Operating and acting, making choices

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within your strategy to respond versus

maybe initiating or forcing things or

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pushing things too hard, then you're

going to reach the point of frustration.

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And that means that's not your strategy.

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Those are not the right

choices you're making.

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So just pause, take a step back, and

find the right energy flow for you.

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I'm a huge list person, and what I

found is I would push myself to get

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all of the to do stuff done on the

list, things that I thought I should

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do, when it was just an expectation

in my head, or it was like something

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I was amplifying out in the world.

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Like, in order to have an online business,

you need to do this, this, and this.

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And so I was like, okay, I'm

going to do this, this, and this.

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But that was me pushing.

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That was me not really

responding to what lit me up.

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Do I like to do those things?

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No, but they say I have to do them.

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So I do them.

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That's not living within your strategy.

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So what I've found is I would just kind

of feel through my to do list every day.

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What feels good to me today, it

just, however you flow, you follow

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the little breadcrumbs and don't

worry about the big picture.

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Don't worry about pushing

and like striving.

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The achieving will come as

you follow the breadcrumbs.

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So that was a little bit more than a

little bit about the strategy, but.

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Then your Incarnation Cross

is your life purpose, kind of

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like your overall life theme.

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What is your soul here to do?

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Sometimes it's a individual learning,

sometimes it's a collective contribution

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to the tribe or the collective.

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And then you see, this is why it looks

like alien, then you see this chart where

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there's all these shapes and numbers.

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And symbols and you're

like, what the heck is this?

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What does this even tell me about myself?

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And you draw a blank and

you're like, I give up.

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I don't know.

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So that's why I'm offering the

free 30 minute introduction.

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What the heck are you looking at on

your chart so that you can feel more

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confident about , some of the first steps

to start to learn your human design.

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So, I'm just going to share with you ways

that the connection between this person's

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human design chart and their experience

with narcissistic abuse may have been

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set up for them to experience that.

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First of all, , they have a

five line profile, the heretic.

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The heretic is the revolutionary,

and I love how their incarnation

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crosses the revolution.

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, it is the, very much like, An Aquarian

energy, individual, romantically

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idealistic, also expanding beyond

the box of the normal society keeps

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us in, like the white witches or

the magical people in the world.

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They take something that may

be in a construct, like country

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music, for instance Taylor

Swift has five in her profile.

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Just blow that box out and be like,

yeah, I started as a country music

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artist and kind of I've created my own

genre and it's Taylor Swift's genre.

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Like it's not quite pop,

it's not quite country.

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It's just her.

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Like that's the expansion

energy that you have.

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It's very unique and a lot

of people don't quite get it.

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And so that can create a struggle of

not being able to relate to others.

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So, that could be one where you

feel isolated already and then the

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narcissist grabs you and they're like,

oh, perfect, she's, you know, feeling

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like a ship without an anchor, and

I'm going to be her anchor, and I'm

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going to bond her to me, and we're going

to, , be together forever, they want

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supply, essentially, out of us, they

want that attention, they want that

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love, they want that light from us.

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So then you can see the next

thing I look at are open centers.

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We have an open solar plexus,

that bottom right triangle.

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She has this white.

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Very open with a couple gates to

find so she's going to be amplifying

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energies from the narcissist.

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Oh my gosh Oh my gosh,

she's so upset at me.

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I have to do this or that I have to

please him in order for this to work in

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order for him to be happy and in order

for this feeling inside Me to go away.

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And so if you're constantly doing that

since childhood It's just a normal thing

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to do walking on eggshells is normal And

so when you're in an abusive relationship,

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you don't think it's It's abuse because

that's like how you've been living your

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whole life and it's just normal to you.

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It's walking in eggshells until

you realize that it is abuse.

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It's not.

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And oh my gosh, I've been

doing this my entire life.

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And then you're like,

my whole life is a lie.

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And maybe your parents are

like, your whole life was a lie.

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Like you were lying to us the whole time.

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No, it was just your survival mode because

you had this open solar plexus and it was

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really uncomfortable to feel all of the.

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uncomfortable feelings without the tools

to handle them and without guarding

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yourself up and pushing them out.

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I also see an open will center this tiny

triangle just to the right on the bottom

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right of the diamond so or you could say

just up to the left just diagonally a

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little bit from the solar plexus we were

just looking at bottom right triangle

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All of you listening, I'm trying to

describe where all these things are,

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so if you have your chart or a chart

in front of you, you can visualize.

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The will center is a tiny triangle.

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It has gates 21, in it, if you're looking.

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And, , when you have the will open,

you are amplifying the agenda of the

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narcissist, or whomever is in your aura.

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And even if it doesn't feel right with

you, it doesn't sit right with you,

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you're going to still outwardly agree

because you're amplifying that agenda.

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It's extremely painful and difficult

and almost impossible to say,

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no, that sounds like a horrible

idea because you're amplifying.

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You are the amplification.

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You are the, the radio, you know,

boombox player turning up the

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volume to the other person's signal,

pumping into the boombox player.

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It's just your natural way of holding

space and in order to guard yourself up

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so you don't get caught in scams, being

sold something you don't want, joining

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something you don't want, , and doing

things that you will 100 percent regret

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when the narcissist is convincing you.

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And it doesn't take much convincing

because we're amplifying.

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I remember a situation where he

just kept saying, come on, come on.

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He used to say that

all the time, actually.

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And I'd be like, no,

no, I know it's wrong.

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But I was like.

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Ugh, fine, like you just like give

in because of course they've also

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conditioned you to give in and they've

punished you and so there's this whole

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like training in emotional abuse to get

you to do things that you don't want

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and on top of that at the beginning you

had this will center open and you're

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like always jumping on their bandwagon.

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You're always like, yes, that's

a great idea, let's do it.

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But did you listen to

your inner authority?

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Did you take the time to know if

it's truly right for you or if

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it's just Their thing and they need

to do this Is this good for you?

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Is this in the best interest in others?

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Or is it going to harm others?

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So take the time to listen

to your inauthority and tell

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them, Oh, that sounds great.

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Let me think about it.

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And really give yourself time to think.

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Think about it and that way you

can come back in whatever way feels

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safe to you to say no if it's a no.

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The open spleen to the left over here

I also look at is a very, , easy one

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to get linked into codependency with

somebody because this is white, you're

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amplifying, , survival, fears, safety.

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So when you're around somebody who has a

defined spleen that feels really safe to

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you, , who may appear to be safe to you

when the narcissist is love bombing us

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and getting us in in the beginning, it

feels safe because they're mimicking and

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they're giving us exactly what we need.

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And this one is a very easy, if

you have it white and open, it's

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very easy to get trauma bonded

and codependent on the narcissist.

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So for this, I really say again, guard

yourself up, listen to your intuition.

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Are you just.

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, feeling like you need to be with

them because it relieves the pressure

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of feeling as scared or anxious.

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And if that's the case, then you need

to find quiet time within yourself to

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soothe your inner child and to calm

your own anxiety and fears down within

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your own energy body so that you don't

get linked into the wrong person.

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Speaking of linked into the wrong

person, then this chart also has a

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White diamond just below the throat.

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That's the identity center.

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The G center.

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It's related to like self love and you

amplify how others feel about themselves.

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And if you're not careful, you may feel.

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, like you are unlovable because you're

around the narcissist who is so

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highly insecure and feels unlovable

from whatever trauma or issues

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that they have in their childhood.

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So that can be a really tricky one too,

to get linked in with the narcissist.

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, there's two more, I don't want to go

through all the centers, but these are the

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big ones that I see a lot, commonalities.

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Open head at the top.

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Probably more specifically the Ajna.

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These are so closely related, but

the head receives inspiration and the

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Ajna conceptualizes that inspiration.

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So if you have that open, then

you are receiving those ideas and

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those concepts from the narcissist.

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And you're like, oh, but this is,

okay, this, this is why this is.

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Right, like whatever narrative

they placed in their head, they

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are pumping out to you and you're

receiving it and you're like, Oh, okay.

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So their thoughts now become your

thoughts and your thoughts aren't your

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thoughts anymore if you're not guarding

yourself up against those and you're

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amplifying them and unconsciously.

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And the last one on the

bottom is the root center.

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I see this a lot.

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I have it as well.

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It's a big pain point.

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We always want to prove our worth.

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We want to do things quickly.

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This is the adrenal gland area.

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So if you have it open, you're constantly

wanting to , reach out to , the narcissist

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in an attempt to maybe rectify something

where you should just stay no contact.

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, you're trying to prove

yourself, prove your worth.

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I am the better person here.

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You know, I can Fix this.

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I am strong enough.

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I am capable of being

able to fix our problem.

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And then there's like

this urgency and rush.

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Also, this open center can be prone

to falling into scams because of the

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scams always rush you into it, right?

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The narcissist is always rushing

you into the relationship.

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And you don't take time to yourself.

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You don't take that quiet

moment and just stop.

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And be like, why is this person,

like, so gung ho and so quick and so

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fast and hard in this relationship?

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Like, let me just take a pulse back.

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But when you have it unconsciously

open, you're like, let's jump in the

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deep end right away, let's go for it.

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And then you're stuck, trauma bonded

to the narcissist, and then you have

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to figure out your way out, which, of

course, you all can figure out a way out.

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But it's hard versus just at the

beginning going, nope, nope, I'm

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not even get pulled into this.

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This just sounds like a trap.

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This just seems fishy to me, right?

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So this is a one example of how when

I do readings and I meet with you, I

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can help you see where the areas that

you need that emotional growth to guard

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yourself up so it doesn't happen again.

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Remember, healing is a journey.

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The human design system is here to

support you every step of the way.

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Embrace your design.

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Embrace your power.

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Dive deeper by booking a free introduction

30 minute one on one reading with

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me and the link in the description.

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Or you can do your self study by

understanding all about the human

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design and healing from narcissistic

abuse in my newest This book, Empath's

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Guide to Rising Strong, grab your

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And don't forget to write a review.

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The link is in the description.

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My favorite parts of the book

are the example I share with

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the story of goddess Inanna.

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She goes into the underworld

just as we empaths go into the

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underworld with the narcissist.

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We are stripped, we are dead to

ourselves, and we emerge back up.

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Resurrected as a completely new person.

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And the Moonology section I love because

it shares with you all of the different

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moon rituals to do to help you powerfully

shed all of the anger and the bitterness

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and the sadness that you do go through

after healing from narcissistic abuse.

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And it gives you rituals for

each moon and each zodiac.

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I have powerful healing

meditations in there.

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And then of course, all of the

human design information, the gates.

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And there's affirmations for

each gate for you to really dive

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deep into your own human design

chart straight from the book.

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Thank you so much for

listening to this episode.

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possible and you are not alone.

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, I'll see you in the Wednesday live with

a fantastic guest and I'll also see

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you Thursday for another guest episode.

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