Inspirational Healing Quote : Stop and Self Care

29. Stop and Self Care

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a trauma informed spiritual mentor, certified meditation teacher, and human design expert. I'm empowering empaths three times a week in recovery and healing from narcissistic abuse, childhood trauma through human design, self-care, mindfulness advice, and expert interviews. This is season five episode

20. And nine. stop and self care.

This is your empowerment reminder. Winter is just about over spring is coming. And you may be experiencing stress.

Because of external circumstances. By interacting and being in this constant fight or flight. With the narcissist.

But all I can say. Is that if you lean in. To your intuition. Start tapping into who you truly are. As a powerful light being. This dark entity is here to teach you a lesson. Or detest you. For you to have your hero's journey and to rise up.

And in order for you to rise up. You need to stop and self care.

No matter where you are, do your empath. Stop. And self care. I mean it, I'm going to tell you a story. During the holidays back in December. On a Wednesday, my nine-year-old daughter was panicking because she couldn't find her library book to return. We took the opportunity to coach her on being a responsible yet. She always is. And usually has her book in a very specific place in the house.

It's not like she leaves it around all the time. So we check those two places. She always has it five times over my husband on his own, myself on my own. Even my youngest daughter pitched in she's seven. She. Also looked. And then she said, you know, we're going to go to bed and it's just going to appear in the morning. And this is my man, Jen talking by the way.

And we smiled and I thought, yeah, because us parents are the magic and we always find everything. But still after bed, I checked on the sofa where it should be .

And it was nowhere to be found.

And as a Virgo, I left no stone unturned.

And at this moment

Of record. Recording my youngest overhears me telling this story on the podcast. And this is why i made this commentary Here I did. And my little mansion is telling me, give her credit because she knew exactly it was going to appear.

So the next morning we are making breakfast and my oldest daughter, who is a projector by the way, looks up.

And she turns around and she goes to the exact same spot in the sofa that I checked six times over last night. And she found the book. Now, this is not the first time I've experienced paranormal activity nor my husband. Uh, he was born in Vietnam and they have a strong connection to the spirit world and ancestors.

And we both looked at each other and knew it wasn't ancestor. Who did that? He was like asking with his eyes. Did you find it? As a no, and it was my eyes. I was looking at him like, did you find it? And he. And he shook his head. No. That's about the end of the story. So that same afternoon as I'm busy editing and, uh, working and stressing the TV over my spiritual alter turns on. And I went over and talked to the spirit and said, I know I will spend time with you later. And then after not taking time for self care and connecting to spirit. Looking at my phone and I'm walking caution, never do that.

And I looked up to take the first step onto the stairs and slip pop. And excruciating pain waved over my body. Like never have I ever experienced before.

I lost my breath. I laughed hysterically. I cried, I wailed. And then I shivered and yes, it is confirmed. The next day, went to the urgent care that my foot was broken. That's back in December.

All because I didn't stop and slow down to self care, which would have given me perspective to slow down. I would not have been on my phone. And I would have just stepped perfectly on the step. And not broken my foot.

Other physical ailments, transpire due to a lack of self care and always running in a state or fight or flight as. Maybe your digestive system is not quite working properly as mine. Maybe you're starting to get. Uh, Um, aches and your nervous system. I knew someone who developed fibromyalgia things like this, especially when you're dealing with a narcissist.

And you're always walking on eggshells and your nervous system. Is on high alert. It's called chronic. Stress. High alert.

So the moral of the story is to slow down, stop and self care. So you can gain perspective. Not only for your self and your health, but for your children, you may need to find an exit plan and you can't find an exit plan. You can't figure out how to leave and how to even draw proper boundaries. If you're always in confusion and fight or flight and in a state of, should I stay? Should I go?

If you're already asking the question, should I stay, or should I go means that you probably need to at least give yourself a physical break and just. Don't have any ulterior motives other than going to take a break, let's say spinning a few nights over. At a relative's house or something to really gauge, like, do you finally feel at ease and feel.

Like you can relax. Outside of their presence. If so then you can develop a plan with a professional. Therapist, you can develop a plan with your family within yourself, you know, really. Knowing that you need to gain financial freedom. Get a job. Figure out Where are you going to move to and sometimes you need to do all of this and the secrecy so that The narcissist does not foil your plans and sabotage that

So, except that you cannot continue in this state of stress that you're in. And you can continue to push and ignore. All of the abuse that is happening to you and your children. And you need to take the hard road.

And take that brave step and your hero's journey to face your fears face the fear of the unknown face. The fear of what my lay ahead. And know that you just need to take the next right step. I'll finish with another story.

I have a woman who is trying to cross a Creek or a river, and it was too deep and it was moving too fast and she couldn't just walk across it. She was worrying and panicking and pacing the side. And it wasn't until she paused and slowed down. And looked down at the river, as she noticed. But there was one stepping stone right in front of her that she could take.

So she stepped onto it.

And then she had to wait another excrutiatingly long minute, but with faith, she looked down and she saw. Another stepping stone magically appeared. And just by hope and faith. And just taking the next right step. Is how you're going to get out of your situation. You just don't know how you're going to get out of.

You can create your own peace and your dream life. You just need to have faith. Hope and belief. With all the gratitude in the world. I appreciate you listening and leaving a review. Sending me feedback. And asking your questions in the form. And the home page. Shout out to a

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Losing time, I'll fade in fast. I just wanna make it last. Try to let go of the fast. I close my eyes. Embrace the blast. Sleepless nights and headache stack restlessness to hell and back. What's my purpose, but do I grab a slippery resu surface, a heart attack, and sometimes you just gotta something that'll give you relief.

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