How To Stop your Subconscious from Pulling you Towards the Narcissist? with Emotion Code

78. How Do you Stop your Subconscious from pulling you towards the Narcissist?

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a trauma informed spiritual mentor, certified meditation teacher, and human design expert. I'm empowering empaths in recovery and healing from narcissistic abuse childhood trauma through human design self-care mindfulness advice and expert interviews Subscribe now This is season five

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And surprisingly, they may not have much to do with you and even your choices or feelings, something that you don't even have control over. However, as a certified emotion code and body code practitioner, MoVI helps people who are struggling and feel stuck to release their trapped emotions and limiting beliefs so that they feel alignment and flow in their lives.

If you are struggling in a toxic cycle in your relationship, you'll find this episode incredibly useful. As we discussed those invisible elements and outside forces that have affected our emotions and the energies held within. Certain energetic cords connected between the narcissist and yourself and how energy in your space affects your relationships.

And then we shared three tips to support your overall emotional wellness. So I can't wait to share with you Mavi. I personally have gone through all of her, , programs. She's helped me clear out blocks in my abundance through the emotion code as well as my relationships.

And surprise, surprise, it was all within my own, conditioning and abuse responses in my emotions that were trapped from my previous relationship. So she's incredibly powerful, so helpful, and the emotion code is something that anyone can do and it's accessible. So let's dive into this conversation to hear what are these elements that are mysteriously pulling us towards the narcissist?

Hey, Madhvi, I'm so happy to have you here and back on the podcast. You're like, you've grown to be such a dear friend and a guide and a help in all of the emotional and subconscious realms. So thank you for being here.

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And to help improve your emotional wellness. That's really the goal of why we use it and what we're looking for from it. It is a hundred percent based on intention. Um, the whole emotion code works based on intention, and what I mean by that is what we. What our hopes are for why we're doing a session, why we're using it, what is the end output or the end goal, um, that is tied to the intention that we set at the beginning of every session.

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And those are the emotions that we're really looking for. We're looking to find, identify, and then release

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It may be something.

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What's your take on that?

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And I think many people start a session, you know, often being so hard on themselves and trying to figure out. Why they're going through what they're going through or why they are the way they are. And I think as things start coming up and they realize that, oh my gosh, like so much of what I've been holding onto is not even mine.

It just really is eye-opening and it really helps let go and release so much. Um, I think that's one of the biggest things that people are, are really surprised or, um, amazed to learn about in a session as you were. Yeah.

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You know, you do, you have your chart and we, you do the muscle testing,

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And then we were able to completely release it. That was the powerful part.

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Uh, most people say, oh my gosh, that makes so much sense. And you know, um, they were already kind of figuring it out on their own. There was something nudging them towards it already, which is such a beautiful thing because I think for me it makes it even more powerful and impactful to know that, you know, if people were saying it didn't make sense.

Or it wasn't matching up to what they believed. Um, it would be really hard to continue doing this work, but that's not the experience. You know, as you, as you just said yourself in your sessions, things made sense, it resonated.

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Um, the emotion code was released back then, and he recently just released the new book called The Body Code. Um, the beautiful, the beautiful thing about this is that, It's really nothing new. We're just being taught how to, um, interpret these things using the charts in the emotion code and the body code.

Um, all the information is available. The books are available. Everything that we learn is something that each person can actually do themselves. So the way that we're using these charts is through muscle testing. So muscle testing is something that, um, there's a lot of information about online as well, and, you know, um, How we can tap into our subconscious and understand some of the responses that our body is giving us.

And this is talked about in the book. So I definitely recommend, if that sounds interesting to anybody, um, definitely check out the books. They're available. A lot of the content is online as well. Um, but you know, in the meantime, there's people like myself who have learned through our training and certification, um, how to help you interpret and.

Um, definitely show you how a session is done, but it's something that if anyone's interested in, please do check it out. There's so much information available.

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Energy and emotion and emotional wellness, that this is gonna probably become a very used tool,

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So we'll be, we'll be right back. Okay? So let us know, you know, all of us in pass are on the edge of our seats. How does the emotion go to help us release all of this stuck? Energy that may not even be ours, that's holding us in its toxic cycles.

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And we, once we identify in emotion, for example, anxiety, fear, Sadness. Um, there's 60 different emotions that are covered in the emotion code chart. So we identify one and we go through a process identifying, bringing awareness to it. And once we get there, that's where. We, we either need to know more about a certain emotion or we don't.

And each person's session is very different and unique. Sometimes you need to know a little bit more about it and sometimes you don't as you as you've experienced. Um, and then we release, you know, and the release too happens all through intention. So what we're, what we would do is, you know, if you're looking at a relationship or you're looking at how this can help with.

Any emotional baggage and anything that's relating specifically to a relationship, that's the lens that we would take when we are approaching the entire session. So this is where the intention that we set at the beginning of the session becomes so important. So if somebody wants to focus on relationship, that's part of our intention that we would set and we would then go through and release one by one.

Um, I know one of the questions that. A lot of people bring up when we're dealing specifically with relationships is, how can I change my partner or how can I change the situation? How can I change the other person? So I do wanna just mention here that all the work that we're doing in a session is for you.

It's for the person doing the session, and it is very much about. You know, healing yourself, working on yourself, building your own emotional strength. Building your own emotional wellness. And that's where, um, you know, I always talk about the ripple effect, and that's how really the changes come to life in your relationship.

Whether you're in a relationship or you're seeking a relationship or you're coming out of a relationship, whatever the situation is, it's still beneficial because, The those around you, your loved ones, your family, your friends, that's where the ripple effect comes into play cuz they see the change in you and that's really what brings forth the change in your day-to-day life.

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And oftentimes people will find that it's really old stuff, you know, it's really old stuff that's. Still showing itself in different ways and where it comes to life is in your thoughts and your actions and your behavior and your decision making. Those are kind of the places that you see it, but it, it's hard to correlate it ourselves, right?

Um, in our, in our conscious mind, it's hard to make that

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But finally, like there was flow in the income, you know, there was flow in, flow out. It, it just felt like a open river, right? Like a, a rock was stuck in that river.

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Like, and there's an opportunity there to be an actual. You know, have an income consistently in the podcasting world as well as, you know, all the different guests coming in here. And this, the, the sponsorship opportunities, like everything just opened up.

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Just like you mentioned, each of these things is a sign that things are shifting, things are changing. Um, and it's because your mindset is. Has shifted along with it, and you're able to see these opportunities, which is great.

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And all these years afterwards, I'm fine. I'm healed. I'm talking about it, I'm sharing, but it still was there and it was like limiting me. So that was really powerful. Can you talk about chords and how they can negatively affect us?

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And in your case, You know, you're not in that relationship anymore, but it still holds some influence over you in a way. Um, and it can create both physical and emotional problems in your life. I don't know if the person would be creating them consciously. My guess is they're probably mostly unconscious because I don't think they would ever know that they could impact your life in that way.

I'm not sure.

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Um, and it, it really does hold something over you. And oftentimes it can create, um, many different things. I think different people see it come to life in different ways. Like it can create irritation, aggravation, um, Negative, negative feelings towards each other, right? Anger. Um, and then once you release it, it really just that that disconnection can, can happen where you see those things fade.

You can respond differently. Your case is a little bit different because that person's no longer in your life, right? So,

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And it reminds me and it like sets me back into the response I would have with my previous partner, which is that energetic cord, I think influencing that.

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I think you'll kind of sense that something is off, something is going on, right? And there could be a potential cord created. Um, but again, um, when it's someone that's no longer in your life, again, like you said, it could be still having some hold over how you show up in your current relationship. So it's always nice to release all of that.

So there's no tie, there's no

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Like, like, you're just in there. You can't, you have no control over it, but it's there and it's attached to you.

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Kind of striking a chord with you, it's something that you're already imbalanced with. Right? So that's happened to me where I've watched a really emotional, intense TV show or movie, and it's like, I know that it's impacted me, right? Um,

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And even limiting beliefs that come up where from the time you're born, you're, you kind of already have that right, because you've taken it on from the mother. So, um, I've seen many people who majority are holding on to most of prenatal. So there's very little that's their own. And majority of the emotions that come up are really from back then.

Um, and they're very happy to release that. And oftentimes they, they do indicate that that makes sense because they know that certain trimesters are really difficult for their mother or they know that their mother was going through a difficult time. Um, and even if the mother is not, I think pregnancy in general can be a time where mothers are more emotional and perhaps, you know, feeling more things during those nine months.

So there's a chance that the baby can hold onto it. So that, that's a huge, that's a huge one that comes up for people as well.

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Just so I can explain the difference between a heart wall and a trapped emotion. So a trapped emotion is something that if you had to visualize it, it's kind of like, um, a ball of energy, but negative energy. So it's kind of the size of your fist or the size of an apple or an orange, and it lodges itself somewhere.

In the body. Okay, so it'll, for example, like anxiety might lodge itself on top of the stomach, and that's all in the chart. In the emotion code chart, you see that the emotions correlate with certain organs in the body. That's a traditional trapped emotion. Heart wall is a little bit different because heart wall is very focused around the heart organ itself, and it's very protective in nature.

So the concept there is that your heart may require protection to get you through certain situations in life, and rightfully so, requires protection. So if you're going through a challenging time, a dangerous situation, challenging situation, difficult situation, your heart may feel like it needs to protect itself and therefore protect you to get through that right.

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And again, um, how it can show up in your relationship is very similar to how trapped emotions can impact because. If you're showing up in your relationship, feeling like you require so much protection, but protection from old situations in your life, things that are no longer happening in your life, things that are no longer relevant in your current life, but you're functioning as though you require that protection.

So, um,

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You know, and people always say when they release in heart wall, they feel lighter, they feel better, they just feel so different because they've been living under all that protection for so long, that's really not needed in their life today.

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I would. I would hate to not work on someone's heart wall when they are focused on relationship because, um, it's a huge thing. It's a huge thing that can, that can impact your relationship. And again, a heart wall can be comprised of prenatal, of ab, um, absorbed of inherited emotions. So a lot of a heart wall, again, can also be not your own, but can be coming from external sources.

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But, um, I'd say like an average that I've seen is between 102 hundred feet. That's an average, but I have seen people as low as like 40 feet. And I have seen people all the way up to like 700 plus.

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But as an average, to answer your question, I think between 102 hundred and yours is probably right in there somewhere.

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So if, if your heart and your body and subconscious feels like you still require that protection, it, it won't come up in a session.

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But, um, when I left, well, actually right before I left my ex, we had this argument and I went into our bedroom and like I could see this dark mist like hanging from the ceiling, like this giant fog in the room. And I was like, that's weird cuz the lights were on. And I was like, I'm tripping out. And then I closed my eyes and I could feel myself being pulled like into this dark tornado, like this vortex that was like completely black.

And I opened my eyes and that was the moment where I was like, I need to get outta here cause I'm just gonna end up at the bottom of this vortex. So can energy in a space have negative emotions or vice versa?

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I think that plays a big component. Um, I know that different people do different energetic releases when it comes to space and comes to their home. A lot of people like to sage their home a lot. There's different ways that you can release energy. Uh, I like to look at it from applying the emotion code to a bedroom or to a home because in like the example you shared, If there's two people who have a lot of conflict in a bedroom, for example,

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So at some point when those emotions are repeated and for a long period of time, the room can pick up on that energetic vibration.

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The interesting thing is that it's repetitive, so it's very different than how a person's, um, emotions may come up. You may be holding on to multiple, generally in a space, it's like a repeat of three or four emotions. So,

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Um, or if you're having, if you're having trouble in your relationship or feel like there are challenges, um, looking at the energy of the master bedroom where you're sleeping every night, um, that's great. Um, and the common spaces in the home and, uh, you know, I mean, I just think it's a great thing to add.

So I generally like to look at energy of space as well. Um, I find that people are very open to it and um, also really resonate with what comes up. So, for example, if there's, um, a couple who is happens to be fighting a lot and having a lot of arguments, the emotion of conflict, the room may pick up on the emotion of conflict, right?

Um, and you just don't wanna sit in that. If you're ready to move forward and you're trying to make. Move forward in the relationship or whatever the decision is on what's happening with the relationship. Um, you just don't want the room to kind of feed back the same thing to you when you're trying to move past that.

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Um, there's no, there's no timeline. I, for myself, like in my home, I just check in like every couple of months, but there's no. And usually it's like, if I feel like something is off, then I'll check in, but if everything feels fine, I, I might not. Right.

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Um, if, if there's anything that comes up, then you can always clear it.

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But I would say just as a tip, consider. Looking into some of these things just so that if you feel like something is trapped or holding you back, you have some ways of going about it, right? And often, many of these things you could even do yourself, right? You can self-learn how to apply this for yourself and for your family.

Um, so that's one thing I would say. Uh, the second thing I would say is like, create a toolkit for yourself, for your emotional wellness, for releasing these trapped emotions. Um, again, like I said, this is one way, but. I think it's just really good to put some time into figuring out what is it that you like.

So for releasing, it doesn't have to always be through a system like Emotion code. You can also use other tools, like you can use essential oils, you can use, uh, sound therapy through music, you can use other techniques that you know your body resonates with, um, always with the intention that it's helping to support your emotional wellness.

So I think just kind of taking time to figure out what those things are that, that you like. Right. Um, and third, just as a third tip, I would say, and you know, we didn't really talk about this too much yet in our conversation, but, um, really being present in the present moment can be the biggest thing, um, just to catch yourself.

Um, because oftentimes these trapped emotions get trapped when our minds. Go too far in the back, too far back, or too far forward. Um, but when we stay in the present moment, you won't really be building up a trapped emotion in the same way that you would. So if we allow our thoughts and our words to take us to a moment in the past, that's where we might start feeling guilt, feeling sadness.

Allowing that to kind of become stuck with us. If we start going too far into the future, we might start feeling fear and anxiety. Again, allowing that to come into our body and becoming trapped in our body. Um, so really just catching yourself in those moments and asking yourself, are my thoughts actually in the present moment?

Are my, am I, is what I'm saying? Actually reflecting the present moment. Um, and I think that's, that's a thing that you can apply for yourself. Um, when you feel like you're really in your mind, you can kind of stop yourself and say, okay, wait. Where am I at? What is this emotion that I'm feeling? Um, and that's just a way to pull yourself back into the present moment.

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Everyone will like different things and different things will resonate, and different things will be helpful for different people.

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Like that's the grossest smell ever. And it's so funny, like what? It's unique. It's not gonna be maybe the most popular, but it's what you need and it's for you uniquely.

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You can help them in sessions, but yes.

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Number two is use essential oils to support yourself as well as sound therapy. And number three is be present. Don't worry about the past. Don't worry about the future. Focus on you being you and loving yourself in the present right now. And this healing will spread out in a ripple effect,

and your light will be able to uniquely shine and you'll feel stronger and connected to your soul's purpose and to just more empowering in your healing journey.